i think being referred to as a "silly boy" even out of jest and as a joke is one of the things that i cant stand and pisses me off more than anything else. granted, i dont necessarily expect you to call me a "man" at this stage in my life (not that it wouldnt be nice and i wouldnt be flattered and glad to hear it) because our society isnt structured in such a way that manhood is determined by age or anything specific and quantifiable by an observer. therefore you cant reason that i am a man because i am a certain age or have gone through a certain ceremony or rite de passage. but regardless, that is an embarassing thing to be called. perhaps at time i get excited and purposefully act slightly less reserved and austere and therefore there is some sort of excuse for thinking of me acting like a little boy or a silly boy. but are you really deceived? can you really not tell? or is this just your way of exalting yourself above me in some way and through degradation elevate yourself above me. you are just trying to label me as immmature and stupid in comparison to yourself so that you feel better about yourself and like you have risen to a higher level of existence. i cant stand it.



any and all comments or responses are welcome at dabele@wm.edu