The Curse of Lloyd Dobler

this is one of the reasons guys hate romantic movies, they make our job harder. they make us feel inadequate and the women we spend time with feel dissatisfied. the glorification of what could be (or should be) in the realm of romance and relationships by Hollywood is causing more damage than we can see immediately. you are fabricating a character that has almost mythical qualities, but his life is lived within the controlled, orchestrated, safe reality of a film's plot, not in real life. So many women are looking for Lloyd Dobler or want to mold and shape and change their man to be more like Lloyd. Well, here is the news flash: Lloyd is a fictional character. (i can almost hear the gasps from here) it is true, he is fake. It is false. the film has pulled at your heartstrings so hard that you give into his reality before you can think about the fact that it isnt real. the consequence is the elevation across the board of female expectations from a boyfriend. You have to be Lloyd Dobler to measure up, you have to fit my fantasy of the perfect man, or I will always be disappointed and will want more.

Lloyd, you screwed us all over. When you do something incredibly out of the ordinary and unexpected, the next time, you are expected to do something even better. There's nothing like the feeling that you have to compete with or measure up to a fictional overly-romaticized character.




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